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#112 : How Do I Reject A Guy I'm Not Interested In Without Hurting His Feelings?
Monday, March 8, 2010 @ 10:35 PM
Well, whatever you do he will still be marginally hurt - especially if he likes you alot.
There is a certain etiquette to rejecting someone nicely. Firstly DONT tell him by text or phone call, unless you want to be remembered as shallow. Arrange a low-key date - perhaps coffee or after-work drinks, and explain how you feel. If you've not been seeing each other (i.e this is literally someone who's making eyes at you) then the same applies. Honesty is probably the best policy here - don't make up some obscure story as your excuse (like "I can't go out with you, I've been offered a job in Japan which means I have to leave the country in 24 hours").
Men respect the straight-forward approach and most would admit they'd not be led up the garden path and dumped later on. So just admit you've thought about it but he isn't someone you'd consider for a romantic relationship. Be kind, don't make him feel awful by saying stuff like "No I couldn't possibly go out with somene who is so scruffy"...."You're such a loser" etc
It's always an awkward scenario and obviously depends also on how well you know the guy. Either way by taking him somewhere anonymous and quiet to tell him gently you will be at least showing some him you are a proper lady with manners :-)
